Its tricky isn’t it? And probably irrelevant to some.. all this talk of love and mush. After all,what’s love got to do with this millennial of career oriented, self loving, 2 second attention span generation? This is the era of casual sex, no strings attached relationships, friends with benefits, why love? Why the hassle? Does it exist? Do we need it? What is love anyway?
Questions, questions. Do I have answers. Well,to some extent and to the best of my knowledge and my instinct and my feelings, I do. You may ask why am I even talking about it now? Well that’s because sometimes, all you need is a ray of light. Sometimes you feel like reading things that don’t appear on the surface till you let them. Sometimes you want to feel light and believe in fairy tales.
But let me tell you, fairy tales do exist. Yes they do.
Here is what William Shakespeare had to say about love in one of his many beautiful poems-
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.
Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.
At 34, I am pretty sure I know what love is. And for the first time, I understood every word of what Shakespeare has to say. Its funny, I was lost all my life till I fell in love. I hated how much it changed me but now that I contemplate what I was and who I am now, its all for good. Its an emotional thirst and craving for someone, its an unending yearning to share your highest high and your lowest low with someone and till you don’t, there are knots in the stomach and bouts of anxiety. Its about working hard all day and at the end of it, just being with that one person.
The Greeks call love “the madness of gods”. Yes its mad. Its honest and bare. Why do people make love? That’s because love is bare naked, nothing to hide, nowhere to run. Its not just hormones, its mind and heart giving you a right to be who you are, all in good company. Its about celebrating each other and expressing it, verbally or otherwise.
I admit, we can love more than once, we can love more than a person. We can get hurt. There are bruises, heartbreaks, there are sometimes sacrifices but in the end, if your GUT tells you what to do, and you listen to it, love wins. Like every success story, love needs effort and time. Don’t expect it to arrive on a red carpet in a Maybach. It could be arriving on foot to hold your hand and lead you to it’s private jet. Yes, choose wisely. Don’t be an emotional fool about not choosing someone worthy of your attention and time, but I trust you to do that calculation. But don’t let it be a game. Don’t play with it. Nurture it like a child, let it’s devoutness in tact. And then, its going to take you on a ride of a lifetime.
I could write a whole book to try and explain what LOVE can really do but I am going to pause here today and show you how to dress up for love- for the night and for the day.
DAY DATE LOOK
DATE NIGHT #OOTD
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